Wednesday, April 20, 2011

It's a Blog Party!

When I was wandering around on some blogs the other day, I discovered a "natural parenting" blog party!  Now, I don't really know what a blog party is, but i thought it sounded like fun so I decided to join in.  This isn't technically a parenting blog.  It started as a "living in China" blog and drifted into a "baby-baby-baby-China-baby" blog.  And I'm only a partly natural parent (I use disposable diapers, after all!)

Apparently a blog party is a chance to explore the blogs of other people who are a little bit like you, and I have been enjoying doing just that.  Confession: I love reading blogs.  Since I don't have enough actual friends who keep blogs, I also read blogs of people I vaguely know, and more recently, of complete strangers.  I feel my blog fascination can be partly excused since there are very few instances in my real life when I am around people who are very much like me.  Of course it is no good to expect everyone to be just like me, particularly living in a foreign country, but sometimes (and I am finding, particularly in parenting), it can be rather reassuring.  It has been fun exploring some blogs of other 'weird' people who make my parenting choices seem pretty normal.

Part of this blog party includes sharing answers to a few "get to know you" parenting questions.  By the way, I think it would be fun to hear your own answers as well, parenting styles and blogging status not-withstanding.
1. How many children do you have and how old are they?
One daughter, 7 months old

2. Do you have a partner or are you a single parent?
Kevin and I have been married for 3.5 years, and I'm so glad he is into attachment parenting too.

3. What are your "hot button" parenting issues?
- Convenience parenting: Decisions and parenting methods motivated more by the desire to make your baby fit into your life with less hassle than by what is actually best for your baby.
- The push to make your baby independent as fast as possible (Americans get so carried away with this!  I don't even think independence is the ultimate goal anyway - we're created to need other people and for others to need us...interdependence.)
-"Experts" who make you feel guilty for doing what you feel is best for your baby instead of following their method.

4. Have you made any parenting choices that you didn’t think you would make before you were a parent, i.e. cloth diapering a child when you had previously thought it was disgusting?
Oh, lots!  I didn't expect to have my baby sleep with me at all, and certainly didn't think she'd still be co-sleeping part time at 7 months old.  I thought I would be much more scheduled.  I didn't think I would be opposed to "cry it out," especially after so many months of terrible sleep.  I plan to breastfeed for longer than I originally thought.  I definitely didn't think I'd ever be holding my baby over a potty and whistling for her like those crazy Chinese people. :)

5. Is there a book or person in particular that has heavily influenced your parenting choices?

Dr. Sears - The Baby Book and website.  I didn't know anything about it until after having a baby, but now I love Dr. Sears.  I appreciate the practical, balanced, reassuring info about attachment parenting.  It really emphasizes getting to know your baby and figuring out what works best for you, rather than following any set method or expert.  It's all about promoting attachment and creating a loving, secure environment instead of 'training' your baby and stressing independence.

6. If you had to describe each of your children using only one word, what word would you use?

7.Is there one parenting decision that you regret more than others and wish you could change?
Well, I haven't been a parent for very long so hopefully I haven't screwed up TOO badly yet. :)  I wish I would have thought more about parenting styles/decisions before giving birth.

8. Is there an area of your parenting you wish you were better at?
Balance - Being able to be a good mom to Juliana while not neglecting other areas of life

9. is there one particular food or type of food that you could eat every day?

Chocolate.  Or cereal.  But not chocolate cereal.

10. Vanilla ice cream or chocolate?
Chocolate chip cookie dough.  Or mint chocolate chip.  Or cookies and cream.  Dang,  I want some ice-cream!

11. What's your guilty pleasure?

Reading other people's blogs

12. If you could be part of any television show, which show would it be?
The Gilmore Girls.  I think it would really promote my sarcastic education.  And then I could indulge in all those yummy, horribly unhealthy foods they're always eating.  I would totally bomb out on the pop-culture references, though.


Uniquely Normal Mom said...

Stopping by as another fellow Blog Party attendee! I laughed about the reference to whistling like those crazy Chines people. ;)

Uniquely Normal Mom said...

Apparently, I can't spell 'Chinese'! :) Glad I found you, and I can't wait to read more! Zai jian!

Anna said...

At first I read "Dr. Sears" as "Dr. Seuss." Time for bed...

But seriously, have I told you recently how glad I am that you're into attachment parenting? See, I once had this grand plan that I was going to make you a little book of my parenting advice as the member of our family who was most recently a child, and there was going to be a section on the importance of forming strong attachments and not trying to make your child too independent early, especially not in the first three years. But see, I never actually made it and you just naturally have awesome parenting skills! =)

Hybrid Rasta Mama said...

Stopping by from the blog party! Soo glad I did! Love the convenient parenting comment. That drives me nuts. Children should not fit into our lives. Our lives should adjust to them. So happy to have met you!

Paige said...

"we're created to need other people and for others to need us...interdependence" AMEN!!

Visiting from the blog party.

Amanda said...

I love mint chocolate chip ice cream too! I really miss the homemade kind from where I used to live...luscious.

Enough about ice cream! Glad I stumbled across you :) I have a friend who spent a few years in Korea (totally different world, I know), and I am always interested in learning about the differences between our cultures. :)